December 2014 LLL Meetings and Playgroup Events

This holiday season, we want to remind you that we are here for you between meetings by phone or email.  

Our meeting theme for December is #Nutrition and #Weaning!  We welcome any topic or question parents or parents-to-be come with as well.  Every meeting is different! 

Meetings are always free and membership is encouraged as a way to support your local Group Leader. 

La Leche League has a rich history and an established philosophy of mothering through breastfeeding. La Leche League is an international, nonprofit, nonsectarian organization dedicated to providing education, information, support, and encouragement to women who want to breastfeed. All women interested in breastfeeding are welcome to attend the monthly Group Meetings (DADS WELCOME IN MT P NORTH) or call a Leader for breastfeeding help.

Beth 843.469.4404

Carissa 843.654.1240, lllcarissa@gmail.com 

Hillary 843.847.1482, lll.hillaryj@gmail.com 

Kat 843.870.4618, katmartinlll@gmail.com

Kimberly 843.814.1322

Marlea 901.210.7541

Monica 843.810.8552, pelletiermonicaa@hotmail.com 

Naomi naomilllmom@gmail.com 

Scotty 864.415.3678 lll.scottybuff@gmail.com

FIRST FRIDAY December 5, 2014

Mt Pleasant, St Andrew's Church

440 Whilden St, Mt Pleasant, SC 29464

10:15 am 

For support by phone or email contact:

Carissa 843.654.1240, lllcarissa@gmail.com 

Monica 843.810.8552, pelletiermonicaa@hotmail.com

SECOND TUESDAY December 9, 2014

Mt Pleasant NORTH, Roper St. Francis Mount Pleasant Hospital

3500 N Hwy 17, Mt Pleasant, SC 29466 9:30 am For support by phone or email contact: Kat 843.870.4618, katmartinlll@gmail.comNaomi naomilllmom@gmail.com  PLAYGROUP December 15, 2014  Moms, dads, babies, toddlers, siblings and friends welcome. Alhambra Hall Playground  131 Middle St Mount Pleasant, South Carolina 29464 10 am - 12 pm  See our event on FB  Kat 843.870.4618, katmartinlll@gmail.com Marlea 901.210.7541 Monica 843.810.8552, pelletiermonicaa@hotmail.com  SUMMERVILLE  December 16, 2014  Church of Christ, 412 Old Trolley Road  For support by phone or information on the meeting: Kimberly 843.814.1322 https://www.facebook.com/groups/292656534156270/ THIRD FRIDAY December 19, 2014  West Ashley, John Wesley United Methodist Church 626 Savannah Hwy, Charleston, SC 29407 10:15 am  For support by phone or email contact: Scotty 864.415.3678 lll.scottybuff@gmail.com Beth 843.469.4404 GOOSE CREEK December Meeting Canceled - See you in January 2015!  For support by phone or email contact: Hillary 843.847.1482, lll.hillaryj@gmail.com  Marlea 901.210.7541 For more information also see http://www.llli.org/nb.html

In Honor of Dylan

**GUEST POST**
By Caitlin Fennell Aburrow

Trigger warning - this post contains content about sexual assault that may be difficult for some readers.
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Today my baby is one. One year in this world. A mere 365 days. It seems like no time at all, yet in that short span, my baby has accomplished feats one would think impossible for a babbling, chubby, two-toothed wonder. 

In her first year, my baby has made me complete, fixed something in my soul that I didn’t know was broken, and made me a better woman, a better mother. So for her first birthday, and in her honor, I want to share with you our breastfeeding journey, so that I may pass along the precious gift my daughter has given me.  

When Dylan was born it was immediately clear: this girl was a born nursling. She latched on with skill and strength, the most beautiful, textbook latch. Dylan gently sucked, tongue-flicking, nipple-pulling, perfectly drawing milk. We happily nursed, she and I, in calm comfort, the perfect dyad. 

But it was too perfect, she was too good at this, it was too painless. I should have been enjoying how wonderful it felt to nurse. Instead I began cringing every time she rooted, fidgeting and counting the minutes until I could take her off. I began to hate nursing. I hated the thought of nursing. I hated that gentle tugging. I hated that closeness. And worst of all, I hated that I hated it. 

One day I sat on my couch, settling in to yet another torturous 10 minutes per side of anguish. As I nursed Dylan my mind tried hard to wander far, far away, but it couldn’t escape. With one little tongue flick and one little squirm, the truth of my pain became all too clear. In that split second, I remembered what had evaded my mind for years: my aunt used to stroke my nipples when I was young. 

Panic. My heart raced, my head spun, my eyes watered, my body grew weak and I felt the contents of my stomach rising up my throat. The sexual abuse in my family’s past was no secret, we had brought it to the light from the deepest, darkest depths of our minds years ago, but this detail never made it to the surface. This new detail was something I feared I couldn’t face. I unlatched Dylan and swore off breastfeeding. I was done. Forever. 

But then I looked at Dylan, this perfect little child, full of innocence. 

The monsters from my past tried to ruin me, they took things from me that I’ll never get back. But I won. I’m an adult now, more importantly I’m a mom, and they will never get to take anything from my daughter. 

I made the decision in that moment of clarity that we would breastfeed for as long as we damn-well pleased. 

I’m not going to tell you it was easy. For months I struggled. Every gentle suckle, every errant little hand running across the opposite nipple, every playful tongue flick, drained me of every last ounce of mental strength I could find. 

But Dylan got me through it. Her smell, her skin, her eyes pulled me back when my mind started going to dark places. Her tiny hands held mine through the hardest moments, her soul taught mine to trust again. 

And now, Dylan and I are celebrating one year of nursing. If I’m being completely honest, I didn’t think we’d make it. But here we are. And I’ve emerged from this year a more complete, more powerful woman, and it’s thanks to Dylan. 

I share this with you because sadly, I am not alone. 1 in 6 American women is the target of sexual assault in her lifetime. 1 in 6. But still, this isn’t something we talk about. For these women, the idea of breastfeeding can be terrifying. Instead, let’s show our friends, our sisters, our daughters how empowering breastfeeding can be. Let’s make it clear that we support them. Let’s bring this into the light. Let’s have a conversation about this. 

I’m starting it now, in honor of Dylan. 

La Leche League Leader's note - please see these links for more support or information:

Breastfeeding After Sexual Abuse 

http://www.llli.org/nb/nbabuse.html

Breastfeeding After Sexual Trauma http://www.uppitysciencechick.com/Breastfeeding_after_Sexual_Trauma.pdf

Best for Babes - How a history of sexual abuse affects breastfeeding 

http://www.bestforbabes.org/booby-traps-series-a-history-of-sexual-abuse-can-be-an-invisible-challenge-for-some-moms/